This age difference is recommended. At this stage, when the second child is born, the parents have 4 years of parenting experience, which is relatively rich, and they are more handy in taking care of the second child.
At this time, the eldest brother basically adapted to the kindergarten, met new friends, personality is relatively independent, the mother can also allocate more energy to take care of the second brother, at this time, feel assured to give the eldest brother to the father.
By the time the second child goes to kindergarten, the first child is almost in the second grade and is basically getting used to primary school, so parents can focus on helping the second child get used to kindergarten, and the first child’s experience can be put to use.
The age difference of 4 years old, the two children’s interests and hobbies are not very different, play together is no problem.
In the long run, the second child can stay with the parents for a while after the first child leaves home, delaying the empty-nesting period to some extent.
There is a small drawback to this stage, however, that parents must shuttle between homework and second child care.
4, 6 years old or above, more siblings
The difference between the eldest and the second is more than 6 years. The eldest has the ability to take care of himself and is more sensible. The family will not “fly chicken and jump dog”, and the parents are more relaxed.
However, the age difference is too big, the two children will be less common words, may not play together.
The eldest brother is more of a kind of care for the second, there is no companion between the two children, sibling relationship is better than partnership.
There is also educational pressure. The eldest child is in primary school or junior high school, so the pressure of schoolwork is increasing, and the second child needs to be taken care of urgently. At this time, the mother’s mental pressure will be a little big.
A colleague named Maomao, whose children are nine years apart, said the eldest brother felt that they could not play together because the second brother was too noisy and affected his homework. Sometimes his sister tore up his brother’s homework book.
Of course, this is not absolute, there are also ten years old eldest brother is very spoil two or three years old, like a “little parents” to care for his younger brother and sister.
Some of the oldest children even become the “mentor” of the second child, helping the second child grow up. At the same time, when a baby comes into the family, the first child also becomes more responsible and responsible.
Second child came, not a bowl of water flat
I never believe that a family with a second child can really achieve “a bowl of water level”, in fact, we do not need to level the bowl of water.
The second child comes, the eldest child becomes the eldest child passively, the parents seem to hope that he will be sensible overnight, but we forget, anyway, he is still a child, he has the right to get your love and care.