Two people quarrel, the first one ang, a stomp on the foot, who also don’t let who, mother want to speak truth to the eldest brother, let the second, the eldest brother on a look, height body type is about the same, “I with what let you?”
There was nothing to do but take a deep breath and say “my own” three times.
Of course, it is also beneficial. For the mother, the maternity leave of the second child is the critical period for the old university to talk, so that she can more accompany the first child, and her parenting experience can also be seamlessly transferred to the second child.
The two children also have a common language, and very similar interests and hobbies, and can play together.For a long time, two children went to and from school together, and parents could pick them up and drop them off together.
Between the ages of 2 and 4, the eldest child is intensely jealous
If the eldest child is two or three years old, he will find it difficult to accept the addition of a younger sibling. He is used to being surrounded and centered by his parents.
He hasn’t learned to share, and suddenly someone takes away his parents, and there’s a sense of “abandonment.”
At the same time, self-consciousness begins to sprout, thinking that everything is his own, including his mother, and jealousy will occur at this time.
At this stage, the child’s emotions are more obvious, such as hitting the penis, or saying “I don’t want him anymore.”
The difference between the niece and nephew is two and a half years. The elder brother has always been put to sleep by his mother, while the younger sister comes, and the mother has to feed his younger sister at night.
“I don’t like my sister,” said the two-and-a-half-year-old. “I’m going to throw her away because my mother won’t want me if I have my sister.”
Children at the age of two or three are clinging to others. After they learn to walk, they prefer to be held by their mothers. During pregnancy, mothers need to often hold the eldest child, which is also a lot of pressure.
At this stage, there is a more ridicule, that is, the problem of going to school by 3 years old.
My brother and I are three years apart, now every entrance examination for secondary school or college time, my mother can’t help but say:
“Your brother’s college entrance examination that year, your high school entrance examination, at home during that period of time quiet enough to drop a pin can hear, waiting for your brother’s college entrance examination score, and then waiting for your high school entrance examination score, no pressure ability really can not resist.”
Of course, in the beginning, the eldest went to kindergarten, but also has a certain ability to take care of themselves, parents take care of a little more worry, so also have time to take care of the second child.
At the same time, the first child’s clothes and toys can be used for the second child, and there are some reusable mother and baby products that won’t be put on hold for long.