There is a sentence in “Only thirty” : “The most charming charm of time, is firmly let you become yourself.
But the truth is, at a certain age, it’s hard to be yourself:
You are step by step alarming, treading on thin ice of the workplace workers;
You are a good wife and mother who can take care of every little thing;
You are a good daughter who is helpless in the face of old parents and tries hard to fulfill the obligation of “close at home and raise children”.
Daily dealing with these multiple roles, daily necessities, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar tea, all kinds of taste, but no taste is completely own.
A person who truly understands life, even if hard, will choose the hot life, and live for themselves.
Base gas, from material independence
Do their own confidence, from the material independence.
Actor Chen Shu has a popular view throughout the Internet: material independence is the basis, without material independence, spiritual independence is impossible to talk about.
Friend small Asia in order to take care of the children, quit to go home when a full-time mother, usually expenses to her husband.For a long time, the husband began to complain from time to time about the economic burden, the relationship between the two people did not before the sweet.
Once when the husband and wife quarreled, her mother-in-law was protecting her son and said to her, “All the food and accommodation cost my son money, and my temper is so big.”
At that moment, Little Ya felt like a beggar with a host.
Finances, family, and self-balance are problems every woman can’t escape.
Perhaps, out of our confusion, we should have a conversation with ourselves to rediscover our deep needs and get out of the mire of money planning, family relationships and self-actualization.
Anyway, the need to remember is, backer mountain will fall, rely on everyone will run, only their most reliable.
Money in the pocket makes the back straight.To achieve economic independence, every penny spent, from a trip to the supermarket to a large jewelry necklace, can be determined by their own, without reporting to anyone.
What’s more, this is the best time for women to start their own businesses, with excellent predecessors leading the way.
Gap, from the choice of leisure difference
Living for yourself, it’s important to set aside enough time for yourself to do things that you enjoy and that are meaningful to you.
There is a real gap between people.
Some people talk and talk about nothing but street gossip and celebrity gossip.
Some people are confined to the family, open their mouths and do not leave their husbands, children, market prices;
Some people do not, look at space, look at planning and aesthetics;Watching movies, genre analysis and cultural analysis come easily.
A random topic, an extension of the people the person loved, the books he read and the road he walked.
The gap has not been opened up at once, but slowly.
The brilliance in front of people is the result of active learning in countless spare time.
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