I was in finance before I became a full-time wife.At that time, my monthly income was tens of thousands.
Because the financial industry is under great pressure, our assessment is relatively strict, and we need to achieve at least 10 million levels of performance every year to maintain a medium level in the company.As a result, I found it extremely easy to be a full-time wife at first.
But after a while you discover that motherhood is endless, too.We grew up in an age when everyone lived in the same circumstances and conditions, when children were not given too much attention and parents had no more choices.But now, if you go to work with a bowl of water, modern parenting is a sea of knowledge.
Degree of food and clothing, mental health, second class (special interest class), survival skills training, also including the school district room, under each category, there can be several sub-categories, each self-classification can be taken out to do research.
Read picture books, children just need to sit there and listen to parents tell stories, my children love to listen to stories, read one after another for an hour, dry mouth.In terms of picture books alone, we should consider whether the content is healthy and well-made, whether it is suitable for children’s age, when it is on sale, whether she will like it or not, and what other mothers will say.
The second class, including music, art, English, math enlightenment, these seem simple, but in fact are all science, not follow the trend of the class can solve the problem.Even if the class, also need to inspect the teacher, observe whether the child is suitable and so on.
But even if you are too busy to have a whole piece of time for yourself, there is no sense of accomplishment.I can slack off at work, and the final result is the result display.At home, chaos reigned. The room was in chaos every day. The table was removed after every meal.From morning till night, the day is 1*365, but in the end there is nothing to judge.
Also, after staying home full-time, I really faced the information cocoon room.The things pushed by the App are all things That I am interested in, unlike before when I had many opportunities to communicate with different people.Good, bad, like, dislike can be received.Now they all send me the school district room, parenting, picture books, brush the questions and remedial classes.Zhihu.com recommends topics such as divorce and adultery.
Work means more possibilities to me.I am a passive social person, and work is an opportunity for forced communication with the outside world, which makes up for my shortcomings in personality to some extent.It’s easy to daydream at home, and doing things one by one outside the house can reduce anxiety.People are social animals. I prefer to stand in a crowd.
Young women should not easily choose to be a stay-at-home mom. The choice that looks most comfortable is often the most difficult.It takes a lot of support.
First of all, the economic conditions, father a person earning money can still support the family economy;The second is the full support of the family, no one because the full-time wife does not work and discrimination;Then their own psychological construction to keep up, self-discipline, time management to consider.Moreover, when you want to stop being a stay-at-home mom, you still have the opportunity and ability to make a choice.
We have no intention of drawing conclusions or making value judgments about stay-at-home moms, hoping that their stories and situations will make more people realize that stay-at-home moms are not a black-and-white, simplistic, multiple-choice question.
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