Recently, Principal Zhang Guimei has made the term “stay-at-home wife” a frequent trending topic.Social media has been abuzz with questions about whether stay-at-home wives are independent women, whether they are a good career and whether women have the freedom to choose.
The opposition says free-choice advocates are “not eating meat” and that stay-at-home wives are willing to put themselves at risk by holding their hands up.Don’t societies advance and women are educated not to have more choices but to limit others’ choices? Ask liberals, aggrieved.
But the two sides are not really talking about the same issue.As the weibo user @Wang You said, although they are all “stay-at-home wives” in name, women have no choice but to withdraw from the society and stay at home, or they can calmly fulfill their mothering duties in the understanding of all parties. Their living conditions are totally different.
I interviewed three stay-at-home wives, some of whom had “endured a lifetime of humiliation” before finding peace in their 50s;There are also people “righteously spend their husbands’ money” and strive to create a “family ceiling.”
Whether or not to become a full-time wife is not an optional question for me.My parents are in poor health, and my husband has to work in the Pearl River Delta due to his career development. Only I take care of the family and the children.
I did not enter the university on the top of my father’s position, when a factory worker in a state-owned enterprise.I had to work three shifts every day. The most painful thing was that I got the night shift and sat in a chair, unable to sleep at all.Over the years, cervical and lumbar spine problems.
My husband did the math and said he didn’t miss my money every month.I took a buyout and went home.At that time, the restructuring of state-owned enterprises to streamline personnel, who take the initiative to retire who glory, the company is very welcome.
Then I spent every day taking care of the elderly, cooking meals for the child and taking him to school.Sense of accomplishment I hadn’t really thought about it, probably because I didn’t feel a sense of accomplishment at work either.
I live in the same neighborhood with my friends and (former) colleagues.In fact, I know very well who gets promoted, who gets transferred to the head office, and who gets a senior title.But none of this has anything to do with me.I can only begin to compare children, than husband.
I’m really disappointed in that.My son took a year off from school when he had heart problems in his teens.He had to take hormones, and he became very fat.Although the family does not blame me in the mouth, but I know they feel sorry for me, because I am his mother, mother is always the first person responsible.
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